You, the presenter. “The goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection.” – Simon Sinek

It was Thursday of this week when I came across a post on my LinkedIn from Simon Sinek, and I haven’t yet had a day when I haven’t come back to what he shared. Please join me in following along today as “you, the presenter”…

We are in the business of showing and sharing our competence to gain trust. We are in the business of connecting. We are in the business of communication. While at first glance, you might say to me, “Laura, why are you sharing this with me? I’m not a presenter. I’m not on a big stage with a large audience. I’m not delivering a keynote address.” My rebuttal is simple, “oh yes you are.” You are a presenter.

Picture yourself at your most recent listing presentation. Picture yourself at your most recent offer presentation. Picture yourself at your most recent negotiation. Picture yourself at your most recent buyer intake meeting. Think about the most recent marketing copy you penned. Picture yourself the last time someone asked you, “how is the market?” Think about your last social media post.

Now, let’s see what Simon has to say about you as a presenter as I’ve framed up these day-to-day scenarios we encounter. More specifically, let’s dig into the importance of the first 30 seconds.

Yes, this is next level stuff. I believe you each are next level. Please join me today for a copy & paste (aka, guest blogger) from Simon’s latest edition of A Spark of Optimism that has a tremendous shot at assisting each of us in doubling down in our impactful communication & connections!

…”The goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection.” – Simon Sinek

How to Hook Your Audience in 30 Seconds, According to Simon

Simon Sinek’s The Optimism Company

2,833,381 followers

February 18, 2025

Welcome to the latest edition of A Spark of Optimism! This week, Simon reveals the secret to starting any presentation with impact. Forget everything you learned about “setting up context”—here’s why jumping straight into the action might be exactly what your presentation or speech needs.

Picture yourself at your last presentation. You probably started with some context: “Over the past two years, we’ve been analyzing…” or “I’d like to talk to you today about…” Now imagine instead walking in and saying: “The year is 1963. January. Vietnam.”

Feel the difference?

“Most people start with stuff that doesn’t matter,” says Simon. “They tell you the lesson they want you to learn, then tell you the story as an example. But it works much more effectively when you start with the story itself—when you start with the emotion.”

It turns out, we might be overthinking our openings. Here’s how to grab your audience from the first sentence (and why it’s simpler than you think):

Start Where the Action Is

Remember writing essays in school? We were taught to start with background, context, the “setting up” paragraph. Simon suggests something different: Write that first paragraph—then delete it.

“Just start where the action happens,” he advises. “Don’t worry about the lead-up. Don’t worry about saying ‘I’ve been thinking about this for quite a while now…’ Just begin.”

Trust Your Audience’s Patience

Here’s something reassuring: You don’t need to explain why you’re telling a story right away. “People are patient,” Simon explains. “They’ll listen without knowing why they’re listening—if it’s a well-told story.”

In fact, that curiosity can be powerful. When people think “Where is this going?”—that’s not a bad thing. It means they’re engaged.

Three Ways to Start Strong:

  1. Set the Scene Simply: “The year is 1963…” Sometimes that’s all you need. Let people’s imaginations do the work of filling in the fashions, the environment, the mood.
  2. Jump Into Action: Skip the build-up. Start where something happens. As Simon puts it, “When we start a story where the action happens, I’m saying ‘This story is for you, and I want you to be a part of this with me.'”
  3. Save the Lesson: Here’s the game-changer: Don’t start by telling people what they should learn. Start with the story that makes them want to learn it. “When you’re giving the explanation after,” Simon shares, “you’re not talking at them—you’re bringing them along with you.”

A Simple Test for Your Opening

Next time you’re preparing a presentation, try this: Write your introduction as you normally would. Now look at your second paragraph. Could that be your opening instead?

As Simon puts it: “There’s no right way to start a story—but there are more engaging ways.” The goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection. Start where it gets interesting, and trust that your audience will come along for the ride.

Let’s See This in Action

Here’s how a lot of people might start a presentation about a new team collaboration tool:

“Good morning everyone. Today I’d like to talk to you about improving our team’s efficiency. Over the past six months, we’ve been analyzing our workflow patterns and researching various solutions. Our studies show that teams spend approximately 23% of their time searching for information across multiple platforms, and…”

Cue the audience checking their phones.

Now, here’s how you could start the same presentation:

“Last Wednesday at 3am, Sarah from Marketing was in tears. The biggest campaign of her career was launching in six hours, and she couldn’t find the updated brand guidelines anywhere. Not in Slack. Not in Drive. Not in any of the 47 email threads she’d searched.

“Finally, she found them—buried in an email from last June, hidden in a folder called ‘Misc 2023.’ She’d been looking for three hours. The campaign was due at 9am. Later, she discovered three team members had the file all along, each working from different versions.

“Sarah’s story isn’t unique—it happened again yesterday to the sales team during their biggest pitch of the quarter, and it’ll happen tomorrow to someone else on your team unless we do something about it. Let me show you what that something could look like.”

Feel the difference? The second version:

  • Raises emotional stakes (tears, biggest campaign)
  • Adds specific details (47 email threads, biggest pitch of the quarter)
  • Creates more urgency (six hours, biggest campaign)
  • Makes the problem more personal (someone else on your team)
  • Maintains credibility (doesn’t go over-the-top)
  • Sets up solution more compellingly

The data, research, and context can come later. First, give your audience a reason to care.

Because in the end, a great opening isn’t about being perfect—it’s about making people look up from their phones and think, “Wait, this matters to me.” – Simon Sinek

Thank you for following along & your willingness to think differently today inside of my Fridays with Laura. We are each presenters. We are storytellers. And, yes – “the goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection...”

Have a beautiful weekend of productive work & play – here to help, the ultimate goal.

I believe you are next level. – Laura

V.O.T.E. and “a bit of optimism” – Simon Sinek 🎤

Election Day is coming up fast on Tuesday, November 5th. Our family will be getting our ballots in today. Fun fact, we have a new voter in the house with our son now 18! You can either mail your ballot in postage-free (King County Elections recommends putting it in the mail by today – Friday, November 1st to be on the safe side; it has to be postmarked by the 5th in order to be counted) or drop it off in person 24 hours a day at a ballot drop box or during business hours at a vote center, which will be open until 8 pm on Election Day. *Thank you, Sol, for outlining these details in your last week’s Civic Minute. If you are looking for more resources from Sol – visit & subscribe here. Another fun fact, I’ve been reading Sol’s Civic Minute newsletter for over 10 years now on every Sunday morning. A really good example of consistency in “flow” in our business. Congratulations, Sol!

Today’s FWL post continues with a getting back to the basics focus, with this week featuring negotiations. With the election season very much here, my podcast feed is filled with interesting and relevant content. I stumbled upon a beautiful conversation between Simon Sinek and William Ury.

Few people on this planet have as much experience making peace as William Ury. William spent decades as a peace negotiator, resolving the world’s most intractable conflicts — from avoiding nuclear catastrophe in the Cold War to mediating ethnic tensions and civil wars. Considered one of the world’s pre-eminent negotiation experts, he’s written several books on the subject, including the best-selling Getting To Yes. His latest book is titled Possible.” – This…is A Bit of Optimism (podcast)

Simon sat down and dove deep into conversation with William on the topic of the possibility of peace in an increasingly conflicted world. He shares some great stories with me from his career and what he’s learned about the right way to influence others. While I appreciated this from a global scale, I also appreciated the incredible takeaways in practical application in negotiations.

Are all negotiations the same thing? Situational differences exist, yet fundamentally, William would argue that at the root of it they are the same. We are humans existing with other humans, and that with change comes more conflict; yet conflict is not necessarily bad. Both peace and negotiations are a process.

This is not a Pollyanna conversation. This is a real conversation. How might we each take increased focus and agency in meeting perceived animosity with curiosity? What self do we want to bring to that next hard conversation? What I do know, is that we each have a choice in this answer.

And when we think about bringing value to our clients, let’s put our skills in negotiation high on our list. I am hopeful this conversation I bring to you today will help you in a small or big way. I really enjoyed it—well heck, three times this week! This episode is 42 minutes…

Full Episode here. Peace Is A Process
with negotiation expert William Ury

FWL will be back after the election and after our daughter turns 16. Yes, Piper shares a birthday with election day. Until then, be well. – Laura